As Valentine’s Day looms again, a true story with a happy ending
By Sandra Fernando
If you’re one of the thousands of singles and divorcees NOT booking a table for two on February 14, be encouraged by the story of …
This paper has reported extensively on the devastating impact of Isis on Iraq’s civilians, including the scandal of our government only taking refugees from UN camps which Christians are scared to enter.
But now we have a positive story! Larry Gentis from West Sussex spent a week in Erbil, Kurdistan, teaching music to Christian refugees and venturing to give marriage tips in a very different culture.
Larry Gentis and his wife Judy give marriage seminars. Larry says, “It seems to me that most men aren’t even trying to understand their wives. I see husbands and fathers putting time into making money and working whilst neglecting the wife and family that God gave them”
The destruction of marriages is a slow but relentless process, which is why I sometimes feel that there aren’t many who see it, but I see marriages and families being destroyed right, left and centre around me. And the children suffer and learn it, perpetuating it.
When a marriage ends in divorce it is much more than selling the house, splitting the CD collection and deciding who gets what: it’s a brutal emotional trauma. Rarely can love be kindled again.
But a Sussex couple have found that God heals hearts – and after five-and-a-half years of divorce, Benzer and Sandra Fernando were remarried. In January, they celebrated six years of being together again.
Teacher and musician Larry Gentis found that showing his love with deeds rather than flowers strengthened his marriage
As Valentine’s Day approaches, I’d like to share a process with you that was a turning point in our marriage. While I’m thankful that someone has thought to put aside a special day to honour love relationships, I believe that stable love happens in the everyday trenches of living together.
Steps to a victorious marriage in modern society
By Lawrence Gentis with Judy Gentis
Foreword by Colin Urquhart
A book on marriage by a man whose wife is still a mystery to him
Are you a man who is sometimes confused by women? If so, this is the book for you. At the time of writing it, musician Lawrence (Larry) Gentis had been married to accountant Judy for 27 years, yet although they are now grandparents, he says he feels the extent to which he knows her is about ten per cent.
Marriage may be under attack, but God is in the business of mending broken relationships. This is how Jane and Michael Neal divorced – and remarried 12 YEARS LATER.
ONE OF MY FAVOURITE NAMES FOR GOD IS Yahweh Rapha (Exodus 15:26), the one who mends, who “stitches up”, who can wholly restore the rent in a covenant of marriage.
This came to mind many times when I was interviewing Jane and Mike Neal, who married, then lost and found each other again.